Tips for Beginner Lolitas

I was originally going to post this as a comment on EGL, but I surpassed the character limit (by a lot), and realized I'd written a blog post. So, I've edited it and posted it here.

This post is meant to help guide people who are starting to dip their toes into lolita fashion. I've covered the things that I'm qualified to write about; I've included links to other useful posts that talk about things that I haven't written about here.

Another thing to remember is that there are no steadfast "rules" to lolita. It can be difficult to sort out what is and isn't lolita. So don't worry about getting every detail right, especially when you're starting out.

On to the tips!

Clothes:

• One thing I'm going to say right off the bat: your shoes don't have to be the same color as the rest of the outfit. I'd recommend getting a good pair of black (or brown) mary janes. Unless you're doing shiro (all-white) or something, it's perfectly fine to wear black shoes. So if (say) you wear a pink jumperskirt with a white blouse & socks, black shoes will still look good. (The reason I'm emphasizing this is that I've noticed that some people get worried that they have to have pink shoes to wear a pink dress, etc.) (There are some dresses/skirts (usually classic ones) that look better with brown than with black, so if you have such a dress/skirt, then you might want to get some brown shoes.)

• For getting brand pieces I highly recommend the lolita sales community on LiveJournal. You can get a wide variety of loli clothes there second-hand. It's cheaper than buying new, and you don't have to use a shopping service.

• As for blouses, I'm a fan of Anna House. Their blouses are sturdy and can be hand-washed cold. (The tag says "dry clean only", but in my experience hand-washing is fine. Just don't iron/put the blouse in hot water, as the rayon lace will melt.)

• Don't fret over getting brand socks. I wear lolita most of the time, and I don't own a single pair. Socks are easy to get off-brand, even in the socks section of whatever clothing store you shop at. I'd recommend starting off with white knee-highs (or over-the-knee, or even tights). You can add other colors (and find some printed ones) later. (I wear a lot of black, for instance, so I have a lot of black socks as well as white; again, they're not all printed.) Printed socks can also be found pretty easily. If you can't find them at a local store, there are places online that carry loli-esque socks. Most of them don't even advertise them as lolita.

Hair:

• An odd thing I've noticed is that some beginner lolitas are worried about the necessity of bangs. I'm not sure how the confusion arose, but let me assure you that bangs are not required for lolita.

• Anyway, hair styles in lolita range from very simple to complicated updos. Some simple styles include braids, a headband/headbow, a hat, pigtails, and a nice hair clip or two.

• I'd say that most (if not all) complicated lolita styles involve curling your hair. Now, there are many ways to do this, and different people have different ways of doing it. You can use a curling iron, hot curlers, sponge curlers, rag curls.... Different methods work for different people. My hair doesn't hold a curl with an iron, but sponge curlers work like magic for me. (Protip: wash your hair before putting in sponge curlers, so it's clean and wet.)

• Pigtails and rectangular headdresses both look great with curls, and imho pretty much any hairstyle looks good with them. One fancy updo I particularly like for special occasions is this Regency-inspired one. (Protip: curling your hair overnight works, so it's okay if you do that instead of overnight braids like in the tutorial. Also, it looks just as good without a ribbon.)

• I don't wear wigs myself, but this post on the blog Parfaitdoll is worth reading.

Co-ords:

• Try matching your socks with your blouse. That is, wear a white blouse with white socks. I think it helps to tie the outfit together. Also, match the main color of you "main piece" (the skirt, JSK, or OP) with whatever you've got in your hair.

• You don't have to match prints to the letter. If you have a black skirt with white roses on it (or something), then a solid black beret or headbow is fine. A slightly-different print is also fine. So, if you have a printed main piece, don't worry about getting the matching headbow.

• Don't worry about having everything be the exact same shade of ___. If your pink bonnet is slightly lighter than your pink dress, that's completely fine. Don't worry about exact matches. Some shades are lighter, darker, dustier, etc., than others. This goes for all colors -- even blacks and whites can vary a bit, and that's perfectly okay.

Finally, I'm going to recommend a couple of useful links:
How to Have Your Dream Lolita Wardrobe -- This is a great article from a well-respected lolita blogger.
How to Wear Lolita Everyday- The Everyday Lolita -- This is more geared toward people who want to don the frills a lot, but it's still worth looking into, even if you just plan on wearing lolita for special occasions, imho.
Universal Currency Converter  -- This is very useful when you're buying things in a currency other than your own.

Oval Headdresses?

Notice: In my previous posts, I have written in a "voice" that doesn't completely suit me. From now on, I shall write in my own "voice"-- my writing style. Thus, the tone of this blog will be a bit less formalised.

Now, on this blog I have mentioned three types of Lolita headdresses: round, oval, and rectangular. This was a mistake of mine; I somehow became under the impression that "oval" was its own category.

For clarification, here are examples of each headdress:

Round headdress.

"Oval" headdress.

Rectangular headdress.

The difference between the last two may be difficult to see. The second one, from Victorian Maiden, has a distinctly round edge, whereas the third, from Baby, is more of a rectangle. The truth is, these are both rectangular headdresses; I somehow became confused a while back.

So, for those of you who were wondering what an oval headdress was, I hope this gives clarification.

Lolita and Piano

If I told you that I played piano and guitar, was a lifestyle Loli, and was wondering which instrument to put more focus on, which would you choose?

Throughout my Lolita years, I have occasionally mentioned to someone or another that I played both piano and guitar. Whether I asked them or not, people would consistently encourage me to stick with piano. If I said that I also sang, I would be told that playing piano and singing would be the best way to go.

There was something that I never said, however. The truth is, I love guitar. I also love piano, but guitar is the instrument that speaks to me most. Piano was my first instrument, but it is still almost like a stranger to me.

I was a very timid person, and was afraid of saying that guitar, the instrument that nobody mentioned, was so close to my heart. I still am timid, although I am writing this post. I could never ask, "What about guitar? Isn't it good enough?"

So, now I ask. What about guitar? Isn't it good enough? Could frills and lace really be enough to stop someone from getting out a six-string (or twelve-string) and playing to their heart's content?

Ms. Velveteen decides to play her guitar to her heart's content.

Dolly-Kei

Dolly in the store Grimoire, in Japan

Dolly-Kei is a new style that's just emerging in Japan. It seems to be a cross between Lolita and Mori fashions, taking Lolita's doll idea and running with it, while also drawing from Mori's forest-girl, fairy tale look. However, it has a twist: instead of drawing from western European styles, it draws from eastern European styles. Dolly also goes for the Middle Ages look, as opposed to the Victorian styles which are the base for Lolita.

Although Dolly-Kei is a pretty new style (only a couple of years old, compared to Lolita, which is decades old), I was able to compose a list of Dolly clothing "rules" (but remember, the rules aren't set in stone yet):

1. Vintage, vintage, vintage! As far as I've seen, Dolly is all about vintage. Even Dolly-themed stores, like Grimoire, have said themselves that they get most, if not all, of their products from vintage stores and flea markets in the West.

2. When the going gets tough, go handmade.

3. Antique floral and paisley are the way to go.

4. Many Lolita items, especially Classic, can be Dolliable. (Did I just coin a new word?)

5. Furs are fine and lovely. (Bonus points if it's faux fur.)

6. Shoes: No sneakers, but both vintage and Mary Janes seem to be fine.

7. Tights, stockings, knee-highs, or shin-highs. Any color, as long as it looks good.

October: Month of the Pink

October is the month when things either
a) start to cool down,
or
b) start to warm up,
depending on where you are on Earth. In some places, Halloween is just around the corner; in others, Christmas is on the way. (Well, holidays like Christmas are on the way in the north, too, but there's Halloween first.) Instead of talking about those, however, I'd like to bring up something that's going on all month, all over the world: Breast Cancer Awareness Month. Some people may back away/run and hide this month for fear of being bombarded with requests from various charities, but perhaps it's time to break out the pink skirts, jumper skirts, and (in the northern hemisphere) coats. A pink ribbon or bow would finish the look, I think.

Here's a Polyvore set I created for it:

BCAM Set by MsVelveteen on Polyvore.com

But "going pink" doesn't have to mean getting out every single pink item you have and wearing them all at the same time. Maybe a skirt, or even just a tiny pink badge, would do the trick nicely. It can be bright, dusty, any kind of pink. See if you can wear something pink every day this month, or, if you don't have so many pink things, every few days. I'm not asking anybody to donate or walk (although that would be great!), but see if you can show support for our sisters by wearing pink.